First of all, shout out to my friends, my squad, my co-pilots, ride or dies– all that. Coming into college I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to meet that one group of people that could turn out to be my lifelong friends. Thanks to VCU Acceleration, me sticking to my goal of “putting myself out there”, and those chem lab bonding experiences for making this happen. No, but seriously, I know I’m not the only person who felt a little anxious about securing a social life in college. Most of this anxiety was sourced from not knowing where to start when it came to finding my circle; so today I’m sharing some tips that will hopefully help those who find themselves in a similar predicament.
Get Involved on Campus:
This is probably a given, but as I briefly mentioned above, that’s how my girls and I came to be. I applied for this Summer academic program during my senior year of HS which gave a pretty intense preview of college. We basically bonded over the struggle of Aleks and we’ve been friends ever since. Of course this bond got tighter as time progressed, which is why I’ve deemed them as my best friends. I say all that to say, that it’s best that you take advantage of all of the opportunities that are available to you. Not only will you gain some experience that may align with your career interests, but you meet new people…lots of them!
Shoot your Shot:
Yes, I’m aware that this term is mostly used when talking about romantic relationships, but it is super relevant to today’s topic. Sometimes you have to be the first person to speak up. Maybe your chem lab partner is the college friend that you’ve always wanted. What about one of your floormates? You guys likely spend a lot of time together anyway. Why not make plans to go out and make it official?
Try to have an open mind:
Have you ever had those friends that only want to be friends with you and only you? That is, they tend to hate it when you want all of your friends to have a good time together. Yeah, don’t be that person. When someone invites you to hang out with their whole crew, try not to be so quick to ask “who’s all gonna be there” (unless for good reason of course). Sometimes it’s good to say, “yeah, I’ll be there”. These tend to be the kind of moments that are sure create your circle, your crew.
Things Happen, Right?:
And by this I mean that some friendships truly come to be by accident. You never thought you’d be friends with ol’ girl you met in the advising office, now here you are. Y’all had something in common and sort of just… clicked? It happens. It’s crazy to think that’s how the universe works sometimes, but take advantage of those moments.
Look, the things mentioned in this post shouldn’t be taken as gospel, but these are things that worked for me and my introverted self. It’s also worth noting that people come and go. You may never speak to those folks you met at Welcome Week ever again and that’s okay.